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Lebanon vs Syria reloaded

A continuation to lebanon vs syria is needed today. Of course, going online and checking news and blogs from around the world, we see the desolation that has taken place in Syria and the idea of a life in which refugees are thriving daily, especially come winter times.

Hundreds of articles have been written for this cause, these articles being written by arab countries, like AlArabiya where an awful picture of a poor child freezing in one of the camps was taken, and where many others lost their lives, where we also read of U.N Chief Ban Ki-moon making an appeal to help these refugees hiding out on Lebanese soil.

In another article, written by the Washington post, we read of the conditions of life most refugees have on Lebanese soil, we also read of interviews and hear the worry between the lines where some of these refugees might be giving up trying to survive.

Even a video was made by celebrities to help donate money to those refugees in need, and I think (wishfully) that it has helped indeed.

But some things are being forgotten, most people commenting on these articles are not Lebanese, Syrian or Palestinian; and their comments are sometimes wrong and judgmental. I read of those that blame the Lebanese society for not providing for these less fortunate refugees, blaming them for ignoring them, and for closing their eyes to their misery.

But one thing that most Americans, Europeans, or whatever country they are from, forget, or shut their own eyes to, is that the misery extends to Lebanese people living in Lebanon as well. Whoever you are and whatever you think, you have no right to judge citizens that are going through hell in the first place; especially when you don’t have facts about what is happening, or haven’t lived it.

So here are a couple of eye openers for judgers: I’m afraid to walk near my house at night, I live in a relatively secure neighborhood, where as of late refugees have been camping out, I’ve seen random Lebanese men and women being beaten by refugees for 1 000LL (0.75 $); and worst part being when calling the cops to help him/her out, all they would say is, we can’t come, we’re trying to save these other guys in these areas. I’ve had friends’ cars stolen by refugees to later be sent to Syria, as an exchange for their homes not being destroyed or their families being able to cross the border illegally.

Now I understand the car stealing, but only when it happens on the street, with its owner being away; even my mum’s car was stolen a couple of months back, making it hard for us to get by, yet being lucky enough to suffice ourselves. But what about those poor souls driving late at night after a long day at work, trying to get home, getting pulled out of their car and beaten, having a gun shoved at their heads and having their hard work earnings being stolen from them.

Of course not all refugees are that way, and not all would go the extra mile of robbing hard workers of their due just because they need it. Unfortunately how do you know which is what. How can you be sure that this old man you’re sending your clothes to, spending money on when you can barely keep your household going and your children warm, isn’t the one that robbed you from your monthly pay a couple of days ago? We still, as Lebanese, try to do the right thing, we rally up to send extra clothes, food, and blankets to those in need; because after all, we had a civil war for many years, we know what it’s like and we feel a need to help those in need because we didn’t get that help sometimes, and wished we did. But we stay cautious, we keep our distance, and sometimes we close our eyes to what is happening because who knows when and if we will be the ones that need this help at some point in time.

Checking the news we hear of bombs being shot towards Lebanese soil, we hear of Israel building up defenses, we read of politicians enticing their “crowds” to go up against each other, and of course us being so “open-minded” ending up following them like sheep. We have the instability of a schizophrenic country.

So I ask those judging the Lebanese for their somewhat lack of helping refugees, how exactly would you act if you were us?


Judgmental country

I know I might be repeating myself once again, since my previous post “Lebanese Ego”, and “Bbm vs Whatsapp” treat on the same subject. Even though this one will be different, the point of judging others’ choices and ways of expression is the main subject.

As most of you know by now, actor Paul Walker has died in a car crash, killing him and his friend Roger Rodas instantly.
Now most people might ask who is this Roger guy? Well he’s the guy that was driving the car with Paul; unfortunately he is not famous, so mentioning him in most posts was forgotten.
Human beings tend to recognize famous people and names more than that of those that were injured or killed with no suffix to their name like: actor, singer, politician etc.


We always see that happening in everyday life, take for example the Hariri assassination on February 14 2005; most people only recognize the death of Rafic Hariri himself, but rare are those that remember the names of Bassel Fleihan; and shame on me for not being able to name one of the 21 poor souls that were in his guard, or around the area at the time of explosion.

But it’s always the little people that get forgotten.

Now of course I will wish both their souls to rest in peace, and many other people will, whether they be Paul Walker’s fans, or parents, family, friends, or even someone who already lost a dear person to car accidents. We all tend to, nonetheless, wish the person’s soul to rest in peace.

We each have different ways to mourn, and we each have the choice to mourn or not. Unfortunately we are Lebanese, we enjoy judging, and expect everyone to act and react the same way as us. Our ego overwhelms us on every turn.

So we post stuff like this:


Of course, us being Lebanese once again, we also come up with jokes and clever ways to show our annoyance. Our jokes are general; they just depict truth and wonders of Lebanese society.

This first picture being a simple reply to some judgmental comments:

While some hit a nerve that is present in our everyday life yet we choose to ignore.

I’m not sure how to react to each, to tell you honestly I don’t really care about P.W, or his friend R.R; they were speeding, shit happens; people make mistakes, and some mistakes are deadly; after all we are simply humans.

But seeing signs like these:

(Translation: Careful! Danger of snipers) being put up on streets an hour away from where I am right now, in the same country as me, and hearing echoes of shootings and bombings; seeing my country flame itself up killing hundreds of civilians a week, men, women, and children is what saddens me most.

(Translation: Shame on us to keep our mouth shut! )

Fortunately for my health, I don’t personally know these people, but I pray for them every day and hope no family members or acquaintances, or any more people get killed in the process. But that doesn’t mean that because they are not famous they should be forgotten, or that because of I remembered one means I don’t remember the other; but if the whole world was to grieve for every lost soul, our mourning would never end, and our grief would kill us slowly.

It’s up to our personal choices to decide who we want to mention in our grieving and who we don’t want to. Trying to make people follow you, or judging their choices simply makes you sound and look stupid and ugly; I’m not sure which word fits better, but the degree of idiocy is too high to ignore.

When will we stop judging each other and just accept our differences? I’m not sure, but I hope soon.


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