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Suicidal actions

Lately in Lebanon we’ve been hearing of many suicide bombers, killing and injuring crowds at random all over the city.

We read of these suicidal bombers throughout history and hear about them on a nearly weekly basis here in Beirut. Jokes have been made about them such as the well known “Achmed the dead terrorist” in Jeff Dunham’s puppet shows as well as different stand-up comedians.

Why become a suicide bomber? To defend a cause some say, while others state it’s the best way for them to make a good impression in removing your life for the bettering of society. And more importantly as it is stated for most suicide bomber terrorists is the fact that they will receive 72 virgins once they reach heaven for the ‘good’ deed that they accomplished.


Unfortunately, it’s hard to convince these terrorists to stop their amazingly idiotic endeavors and move on towards a healthier lifestyle and way of discussion; which makes it a useless point to try and argue in this case.

But what about drivers in Lebanon? I’ve previously written a post ‘I also like to live dangerously’ where I’ve pointed out how dangerous it is to try and drive a car in Lebanon and specifically in the vicinity of Beirut. So as always driving around here still takes a lot of skills, but I’ve noticed myself and other people developing a reaction that’s very different from the usual cursing at crazy drivers, and it’s this simple phrase: “روح نتيحير لا حالك” aka “go commit suicide by yourself”.

Growing up and learning how weak the line can be between life and death, especially when it comes to driving mistakes, not having enough time to break or having another driver swerve in front of you all of a sudden can all become the last thing you see.

As most Lebanese know, we’re always in a hurry, to get to work, to get home, to get to a pub, even to cruise; we tend to always speed/break most of the drive, get annoyed by slow drivers and/or by fast drivers. Being able to speed past a car or two can be a great feat, while getting passed by other fast drivers can be cause for defeat sometimes.

I think that suicidal drivers are more dangerous than suicidal bombers, at least the latter have a reason to kill themselves as well as risk the lives of many others; while the drivers are only in for the fun of the drive and the rush of adrenaline, especially in crowded streets and highways.

Take for example this guy, speeding his way down a road when he lost control of his car for a second, luckily for everyone else he crashed into the railing which broke a threw his car off into the Beirut river, instead of having his car wobble down on the street causing a huge accident including 3 to 5 cars.


Lucky for him as well the fact that he survived the crash, and was alone in the car. Unfortunately most of the time these ‘suicidal drivers’ are usually the young people trying to look cool, or the elder family men with their toddlers sitting on their laps or with their heads dangling out of the windows that end up in these car crashes, endangering the lives of so many without thinking of the consequences of such choices.

Of course most of them will reply with: “yes but I’m a good driver!” Unfortunately what most of them forget is that mistakes are part of the human nature. You might be a good driver, but how can you trust that the other drivers around you are good drivers as well? A good example of this is this video that was made not too long ago as awareness for those who trust others to act the same way as them.

So who do you think is more dangerous in this case?


“Goodmorning” lebanon!

Now I sure some of you might be surprised at that post today, but today should have been a good day, which is why I say goodmorning!

Today marks for most of us the last day of work for the year before heading out to the villages or preparing our homes or our plans for a happy happy new year.

Most Lebanese are out shopping, swearing at traffic, wiggling their way around to make sure they end this year 2013 in style and welcome a new year full of joy and happiness.

But as I notice we, as a country, as Lebanese, still dream big; we dream for peace and safety…

And this is what we get

Even Lebanese and non Lebanese living abroad get injured


I’m not taking about physical injuries of course, I’m also taking about mental and emotional; we as a country have learnt to be thankful for surviving explosions instead of being thankful to the Trust, love and prosperity that we’re supposed to wish for.

And still, someone keeps dividing us, destroying our Trust in each other.

Media and crowds run to assumptions, blame parties, and forget to mourn for those whose life was destroyed in a blink of an eye; 5 dead and 70 injured in the polls today.

Will our history ever stop repeating itself? No one knows. But I still have hope.


So goodmorning to all, and hope that 2014 brings with it some safer days with less tears and more laughter.


Simple act

Lebanese people, you never cease to surprise me.
Sitting at a pub a couple of days ago, I noticed an old highschool friend sitting by himself at a table outside, so I decided to invite him to join me and N while he waits for his friends to join in. H.M, I hope you will read this, that night you did something that amazed me (which might explain why I kept staring at you after returning to my seat – so sorry about that).

Me: Hey! Why you sitting here alone? Come join me and N at the bar
Him: no am good, waiting for some friends plus keeping an eye on the flower boy’s flowers.
Me: it’s cool, just get them in with you, I don’t think he’ll mind… but why did he leave them with you anyways?
Him: oh, I’m helping in teaching him how to take professional pictures, so I pass him my camera then we’ll check the angles together.
Me: *speechless*  ok cool, if you change your mind you’re still welcome to join.

All I can say is Wow, on some many levels and in so many ways.
The first Wow goes to the extent of your trust towards a young homeless guy in giving him your pro camera for a ride.
The second Wow goes to the young man’s ethical values and respect of other’s property and goods.
The third Wow goes to you helping him out and extending to him your knowledge with no strings attached.

Simply WOW all over.

Lately with all the Syrian refugees taking over Lebanese streets, I’ve received more than once news of theft through open car windows. But seeing H.M simply lend his camera (probably worth a lot) with no leverage and with full trust simply blew my mind. Living in an unstable country such as Lebanon, we got used to being edgy over whom to trust and whom not to.
But I strongly believe the best way to find out whom you can trust and whom you can’t is by simply trusting blindly (but not fully), show the other that you do have complete trust in them, and hope that they will have the decency, if not moral obligation, to return your trust by proving themselves worthy of it.

A pin-point though, I’ve heard many tourists come to Lebanon say it’s such an unsafe place where you can’t trust anyone, but I’ve been around and seen a lot, where keeping your phone in your inside pocket might still get stolen, and where keeping your belongings one second unseen might get them to disappear.
In Lebanon I keep my phone on the table, go dance or pass to the toilet and still find it there when I get back. So please, I hope you can finally break this stereotype; knowing that there will always be those exceptions to the rule. But the way I see it those guys, Lebanese and Syrians alike, have been through a lot lately, judging won’t help. So bear with us, we’re trying to pull through as much as you.

It’s not going to be easy, it’s going to take a lot of time; you might even find your trust broken a few times. But maybe one day we’ll get to the point where we’ll feel comfortable enough to trust each other and know that our faith in the other is followed by respect.

So on a brighter note; H.M, I wish you and your friend the best of luck in your endeavors, and hope that one day I’ll get a chance to check out these pictures.


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